tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4073861219737122480.post9177010279576830385..comments2023-06-27T07:22:12.939-07:00Comments on No Workplace Bullies: Stretch your mindCatherine Matticehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10344114499690797073noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4073861219737122480.post-59653988150683688582009-01-13T20:19:00.000-08:002009-01-13T20:19:00.000-08:00Melissa,With all the respect intended, it might no...Melissa,<BR/><BR/>With all the respect intended, it might not always be that simple. You might have a different understanding and different abilities then others. Some people are truly victims and feel that they do not have a voice... and your bully knows that. A bully might sense that fear in you. That is why Catherine is here, to let people know that they are not alone. We all like “constructive criticism”, but ego has nothing to do with this. If you are a professional you should know how to fix a problem without criticizing…. Come on? Lets get to the truth here… there is a huge difference in a person not preforming the way you predicted, but we are talking about people who preform to their best always and get shut down and abused, then their ideas are taken credit for by the person that wanted you to do a better job. And really let me ask… do we need to make someone feel inadequate for not preforming to standard or can we explain what standards are? <BR/><BR/>-meAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4073861219737122480.post-2311232162128405772009-01-04T10:25:00.000-08:002009-01-04T10:25:00.000-08:00Catherine,This is always tough to say to someone w...Catherine,<BR/><BR/>This is always tough to say to someone who feels they are being bullied, but I always want to ask them if they are being just a bit too thin skinned. Many time the criticisms, although poorly delivered, have a grain of truth. <BR/><BR/>To me, the trick is to pull out the useful information, without letting it affect our ego, and throw out all the other junk that gets thrown our way.<BR/><BR/>All the best!<BR/><BR/>MelissaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17975146450107615036noreply@blogger.com